Your Personal Development Expert defines personal development as “the process of making yourself more valuable.”
Within a family, how can one determine whether they hold value or not?
The dictionary explains that value is about relative worth, merit, or importance. If value is defined as relative, than to every person, personal
development of course means something different.
In order to achieve personal development specifically within
family, a person would need to consider what they think is most important in a
family. To me, the most important
aspects within a family would be: communication, respect, and responsibility. I
feel like once I have attained these three aspects fully within my family I
will be able to continue in life as well as start my own family, teaching them
what I have learned myself.
University of Delaware highlights four problems that get in the way of communication: assuming others
you know other’s thoughts or they know yours, focusing on our own thoughts
while another is talking and not listening to them, bringing up new problems
not related to the current situation, and finally assuming you know what is
right for others. I do feel like communication is one of my stronger aspects
but I feel so comfortable in my family that there are times I often forget to really
listen. It’s hard to listen to people who are so close to you because of course
you know them so well so you assume you know their every thought. In my
opinion, I feel like everyone in the family should take a break in their busy
schedule, spending some quality time with each other and making sure everyone
is on the same track. In my journey of personal development, I will try to do
this with my family more often and not take for granted the fact that I have a
loving family who is always there for me through good and bad times.
University of Illinois pointed out that in order for there to be respect there needs to communication
as well. This makes sense because if you are not listening to what your family
member is telling you then how can you say you are fully respecting them and
their needs? Respect is an extremely important aspect in any relationship,
especially family. It is a rare case in which respect is lacking in a family
and in my family I believe we all do respect each other. So of course, while I
do respect each and every one in my family I need to make a conscious effort
that I am truly listening to what they are all saying and feeling so I can
respect those needs.
I also believe that in a family it is important that
everyone holds responsibility for themselves, for each other, and of course for
the home. This is probably where I need to develop the most. As I still live
with my parents, I depend on them heavily and don’t take up much of the responsibility
in the home nor for my family members.
Family is where are your personal development really shows
through, and on the most part is taught by your parents. I would encourage
every young adult, especially those still living at home, to reflect on what
they think is most important to have in a family and these values will help you
into becoming a greater person in the end.
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